Deep thoughts...

So I was reading my friend's blog last night before I dragged myself upstairs, and got in the shower. She had written something that really made me think.

"I will say that I am going to be an honest blogger. That is one of my peeves about blogs: all the sugar-coated sweetness out there. (especially in the LDS world) How many perfect homes, children, and people really exist?"

She's got a point. Seriously, there are some people out there who write about the gooey goodness of their families and their cutsy crafty projects and it gets a little ridiculous. But then, do we really want to hear about how much their lives suck? I know there are sometimes when a blog is a good venting zone, but it also needs to be a place to celebrate life's little victories.

Then I started to think about how often we are actually honest. Honesty has several definitions, but in my shower last night, I was thinking about all the times when nice Mormon women aren't honest in what they are really thinking... My mental thought processes went to dialogues (I was a drama teacher in a past life), and I thought about being honest in some situations. (*Note* I am not thinking of any one person in particular...I mean no one offense.)

Sister 1: Can you believe it? I'm having a baby!
Nice Mormon Woman reaction: Wow! Congratulations! (Smile
and nod)
Honest reaction: Seriously? Again? But you don't take
care of the kids you DO have...

Sister 2: Oh, I can't do that, I just have too much going on with
this, or that...
NMW reaction: I see. What can I do to help you?
Honest reaction: Like I'm just sitting around. Gee, but you
manage to have plenty of time for (insert non-descript meaningless hobby here). And you sure expected help when you needed it last month...

Sister 3: I just don't have enough money to pay my bills right now; I
sure am glad that the church can help.
NMW reaction: We're here to help in anyway we can. Don't
hesitate to ask.
Honest reaction: That sure is a nice (manicure/pedicure/new
outfit) you have. Didn't anyone teach you about money
management? Isn't self-reliance a key principle of the church?
Slacker.

Now I fully understand that situations come up, children will be born, and it's not my place to judge. However, it's frustrating to have to search for NMW words when those honest reactions come up. That was my shower last night. Deep for one o'clock in the morning.

P.S. Today, Audrey was back to her normal self. Thank goodness.